There are certain milestones in life where I’ve felt like time has flown by. Graduating from high school, turning 25, every time one of my children has had a birthday 🙈 , turning 30 and now celebrating my 10 year wedding anniversary with my husband, Jason. Depending on where you’re at in your life, this may seem like a really long time or a drop in the bucket. It’s crazy to think that my marriage is crossing over into the double digits. The fact that I’ve been in a relationship with my husband since I was 15 means this fall we’ll be moving into a time where we’ve lived more of our life together than we have apart.
I gushed a whole lot about my husband in a blog post for his birthday and all of those things are still true. He is an incredible partner, support, father, friend and my one true love. I couldn’t be prouder of him. I always joke that he is one of the best decisions that I’ve made in my life because it led me to the life that I’m living right now.
But please note that this blog is called ‘A Decade of Love’ not ‘A Decade of Perfection’. In the last 10 years, I’ve had some of the most beautiful times in my life while being married. I’ve enjoyed the one on one years with my husband, serving with him in our church, raising our kids and traveling together. Plus I couldn’t forget those times that we just laugh until our face hurts and we can barely breathe. Laughing is the best. Those times are my favorites but there have also been some hard times too. The “growing pains” of being newly married, figuring out how to mesh two different ways of doing things into one life. We had a business full time for a little while and almost 6 years ago it failed. Hard. It was our marriage and faith that got us through that time. Managing our marriage after having a child was an adjustment period as well. It wasn’t just the two of us anymore and now after two kids, we’ve learned to grow into a new normal.
Even now, I personally have been going through a time of disappointment. Feeling like the things I thought would happen by now, like our home remodel for example, would already be completed or further along than they are. I try to remind myself that nothing is easy and the things that are worth having take work. Marriage included.
I’m so glad that my husband and I have decided to put our marriage over everything and continue to do date nights even if we could easily spend that time running errands without our kids. We still make time to talk even though it’s interrupted by, “Mommy!!!! Daddy!!!!”. We still want to hear about each other’s day and care about our spouse’s thoughts and feelings. At the end of the day, my husband is still my best friend and my favorite person. I love my husband more today than when I said I Do 10 years ago. I’m thankful for him and us as a couple. I love being married to him and becoming Mrs. York has changed me for the better.
I’m thankful for the hard times (not in the moment but I’m trying to get better), the good times and the depth of the love between us. 10 years behind us, forever to go. Here’s to us! 🥂